Serhiy well so many great insights if you don't mind I'm just gonna list them after the sensor so you said that after four years of intense work you basically burned out in in a way and you realize that you were quote unquote a vegetable the work that you were doing was no longer driving you or something of this kind right and you realize that that was the time for a change and and this is the lesson for a lot of a lot of people don't be afraid to change things even if they look good from Financial standpoint or other stuff it's okay to listen to yourself understand if you're emotionally healthy and mentally healthy and if it's not the case change something um then you said that you change
Jane I want to add that that it could be um another way whether for example this last year when people are after war begins uh many of people uh have the same Milestone but they are like a zero point with their mental health and at zero point with their uh some uh money their businesses and and so on so forth and that's also uh this brick breakout point where they can start from this uh and start something new
Serhiy yeah start from scratch that's what I also said that you know there is always um a silver lining in every cloud so I don't want to sit here and say that you know there are benefits to war but if we think about it that could have served as a wake-up call to a lot of people and maybe right now it's time to finally think about what do I really want is this something that I was doing before war was really my thing or maybe I was just pretending maybe this is the time for us to make a breakthrough and and maybe do something that we always wanted to do you said that you changed perception that you started working with the we actually me and Jane we actually met at one of the psychological uh trainings called upgrade Camp level up hi to everyone who's listening um and uh yeah that was the place where we met and you say that that was I think that was part of your growth something that helped you to maybe not judge other people but first try to to change your own perception and you said that your relationships with other people in a really surprising way started to change I wanted to ask you did you have some open conversations with them when you thought that they you know your relations were not up to par were not great
Jane uh yeah when I have this open conversation with them uh it's like transformed into a new conflict with them and even after I change and try to change some and to fix it in my mind and when I um when I create a new Option uh in these relationships or open maybe a new door in my heart even after the year our um our discussions uh have more structured and more insightful actually and these answers uh from both of us they are not about some conflict they are about um compromises or Alternatives it's about games it's about uh how to Solutions how we fix it and it's really a discussion it's not like uh only positive words in this podcast or not so that's why I try to no you can use any language okay okay so yes yeah it's not only conflict it's like some something terrible for me to have this conversations uh with the some of these difficult conversations no one likes them yeah it's not a conversation it's like you are with the wall and the wall with you and it's it at the end um when you are speaking with the person who could hear you and you are the person who could uh who couldn't uh see this person and uh this uh these are something yeah uh but yes uh coming back uh after that we have these conversations and we have this dialects and this structure dialogues and uh I understand that uh of course uh it's um maybe vibrations uh and my work with myself which helped me to to connect this bridge
Serhiy maybe they start feeling that you are more willing to I don't know hear them even if you don't if you disagree you're still willing to listen you know and that's part of what makes a great conversation where people first let I give this lesson to folks who I consult that you have to let people empty the bucket if you let the person empty the bucket say everything they have to say they will be much more willing to listen to you next basically you just have to be really really patient
Jane and I upskill my empathy I'm really upscale my empathy
Serhiy you were not super empathetic um some years ago yes you were a strict manager um
Jane I'm not a strict manager but um I'm echocentric person I was a negocentric person weary egocentric person yeah
Serhiy well this is the transformation that a lot of people are making and uh I'm also making it and as you and as you mentioned at some point you realize that you want to give back more you want to make it about others more than about yourself and that's something that I can really relate to Jane because that's what I'm doing in this podcast is also part of this thing where I'm just giving back and um the hardest part is not to expect anything in return because in a way we still expect something right but I think when we train ourselves just to give back and do it with the Open Heart I think the universe will find a way to reward us yes yes I agree with that absolutely but sometimes you need to ask that's something that I also realized you remember at a great Camp they said if you don't raise the hand No One's Gonna know that you need help
Jane for sure for sure uh just to recheck at this moment maybe uh because uh yeah firstly raise the hand uh when you need your uh when you need some help or um to speak about yourself don't be shy in this uh world because it's also important so it's not only about help it's also about uh your to be yourself um be yourself
Serhiy thank you for using the name of podcast product placement that's the real DNA yeah so yeah so not be afraid and this is the something that a lot of people in Ukraine um have like in common worst kind of shy to talk about ourselves like you know sometimes even um brag you know we can we can brag a little bit bit you know just to say that we accomplish this we accomplish that because in America they do this all day long they're not shy at all for some reason ukrainians were just not accustomed to to listing all our achievements for some reason yeah yeah okay Jane uh let's talk about some entrepreneurial things or startups uh or the community of women entrepreneurs that you're involved now and then to end this session we will talk a little bit about how you combine work and personal life this would be really interesting for all the business women especially coming from someone who successfully combined few things but before that I I saw you uh performing on the stage I see that you are that you work with accelerators such as 1991 accelerator uh Satan University wtac you said that in your case studies there's only one man who's missing it's Elon Musk because you have all the case studies in the world and you run this Jane Clapper consultancy agency that provides workshops leadership trainings you also guys do um