Ahmed
Yeah, I can give you a very nice story. One of my very early career shocks um that I turned kindness and resilience uh together into success. So, one of the my colleagues I was really uh looking up to was very one of the smartest lawyers I worked with and I saw him growing and doing very well. So it was probably the second year of my career and he left the company where we used to work together and he did something very big and fantastic and I meet him out for coffee and I told him listen I need career advice from you. I'm doing XY Z and I don't think I um I figured out my career very much and I need some help. You worked with me. you understand how I am. Why don't you uh give me an advice? And his advice was really shocking. He told me, "Ahmed, I don't think you're a good lawyer. I think you should change this. I don't think your English is good enough. And I think you should try to find a job where you use Arabic language because I think you need to understand the limitation of your skills. And I really got shocked and I was like, "Wow, how am I going to figure out my life right now?" You know, and this guy I'm looking up to is really smart and he was really um I I was looking for something else for completely something else. But kindness um I I that was really a bad day for me just to let you know. It's not it's not a good I don't know if it was good thing on his part. I mean I looked at it in a completely different way. I wake up in the morning and I said I think I'm communicating something wrong. I have to be kind to myself to understand because I know I'm not I'm a good lawyer. I believe in myself. I know that my language can be better and um it was not that bad honestly and I felt that okay let's be kind to me and let's be kind to him. Oh so I was kind to myself that I didn't beat myself up so much and I was kind to him enough to say he did not mean wrong he just got a wrong message because I communicated something in the wrong way. So let me figure that out. And from that day, I focused on let me fix how I dress up. Let me fix how I talk. Let me fix how I deliver my messages. Let me fix how I work and deliver my work. And actually, that was one of my transforming points by being kind, really kind to myself and to person who gave me a not very kind remark. And I was very resilient at that moment is that I decided I'm going to do everything right because I really know my target. I want to reach out to a place where I am a very good lawyer and I communicate myself in a very good way and honestly I feel so good about myself right now.
Serhiy
Wow. And you're saying that you have good relationships with this person now? Until now?
Serhiy
Wow. Wow. This is very uplifting story
Ahmed
and he have a very good uh feedback and he's one of the people who always um refer business to me. Oh, because he trust that my work is really good and he see how big is my company right now. He see how big is my podcast and he always talk very well about me. But to be genuinely honest, I took his comments at that day in a very positive way. Of course, it was really 12 hours. I I felt so bad.
Serhiy
Were you mad a little bit at him in the beginning?
Ahmed
And no, no. Oh, wow. Not one second. I just felt I listen, this is one of the most important things. If you have the tendency to blame other people for things that will make you mad, it's your problem. Okay? This did not come out because of him. He saw something that allow him to think like that and to communicate such a message to me. Of course, I got upset. I got really upset. But if you get upset for the wrong reason, you get the wrong results. Because I could have got upset from him and I say that how come this guy talk to me like that? He don't know me. He don't see my value. He don't this. But wait, wait, wait, wait. Who are you? You know, don't think of yourself that much, you know, like who are you in reality, you know? You're so full of yourself. Then take accountability. be accountable. You know, talk to yourself. What did I deliver wrong that someone else got a wrong idea about me? I'm pretty sure a lot of people who look at me right now would think like, "Wow, this guy is great." No, no, no. Take it easy. I'm not that great. You know, I just deliver a message that looks so great and you can do that as well.
Serhiy
This is just a master class on mature um self-consciousness and on mature way of uh looking at yourself and in mature relationships with your ego. I think we as business people uh who want to achieve a lot we really need to keep our ego at bay and it's really difficult. I remember Simon Synynic who I mentioned said once that um the problem with the ego is not when you have when you think of yourself like you can achieve more. The the bad the problem with the ego when you think you are better than others like it's not the problem that you are you think you're great it's for problem when you think that you are better than others.