Victoria Boloban: Ukrainian Businesswoman on Survival, Love, and Building a New Life in the US | Be Yourself Podcast
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VictoriaBoloban

Ukrainian entrepreneur who survived 60+ emergencies with severe lung disease — now building a new life in the US — on meaning, love, honesty, serving others, and what hardship really teaches you about yourself

Business · Resilience · Meaning · Sexuality · Ukraine · USA
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What Does It Take to Survive 60 Emergencies — and Then Build a Business and a Life From Scratch in a New Country?

Victoria Boloban's story is not a motivational template. It is a real account of what happens when a person is forced to face death repeatedly from a very young age — and chooses, again and again, to keep going. Diagnosed with severe lung disease, Vika survived more than 60 emergency hospitalizations before most people have even figured out who they want to be.

That experience did not break her. It shaped her. Today she is a Ukrainian businesswoman living in the United States, building a new life with the same radical honesty and openness that carried her through those years of illness. In this episode, she and Serhii go deep on what it actually means to live with purpose — to find meaning not despite hardship, but because of it.

This is also a conversation about the parts of life most people avoid in polite company: sexuality, desire, the power of owning who you are without apology. Vika speaks freely, directly, and with the kind of clarity that only comes from someone who has genuinely looked at their own life and decided to be honest about all of it. An hour well spent.

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Surviving 60+ Emergencies — Victoria's Story of Living with Severe Lung Disease
How a Ukrainian girl faced life-threatening illness repeatedly from a young age and what that experience does to your relationship with fear, time, and meaning.
02
Love and Honesty as a Strategy — Not a Feeling
Vika's core belief: that unprecedented love and radical honesty are not soft qualities but the hardest and most effective tools for turning hardship into the foundation of a life worth living.
03
Finding Meaning Through Serving Others
Why purpose built around service — to people, to community, to something larger than yourself — is the most durable kind. And how Vika arrived at this not from a book but from lived experience.
04
Accepting and Mastering Your Sexuality
An open, direct conversation about what it means to know and accept yourself as a sexual being — and why most people's relationship with this part of themselves holds them back in every other area of life.
05
Building a Business and a New Life in the United States
What the actual process of relocating and rebuilding looks like — not the Instagram version. The challenges, the adjustments, and what it takes to start again in a country that does not know your name.
06
Hardship as a Hinge — When Difficult Things Become the Point
Vika's perspective on why the hardest chapters of her life were not detours from her success but the exact reason for it — and how this changes the way you face every new challenge.

About the Guest

Victoria Boloban — Ukrainian Entrepreneur, Survivor, and Advocate for Radical Honesty

Victoria Boloban is a Ukrainian businesswoman currently living and building a new life in the United States. Her story is one of the most remarkable on this show: diagnosed with severe lung disease at a young age, she survived more than 60 emergency hospitalizations before she was an adult. That experience did not define her as a victim — it defined her as someone who takes life seriously because she knows exactly what it costs.

Vika built her career and her worldview on two principles that most people treat as soft: love and honesty. She uses both not as emotions but as operating systems — ways of moving through the world that, she has found, consistently produce real results where performance, strategy, and hustle alone do not.

She is open about all of it — her illness, her business, her sexuality, her relocation, her beliefs. That openness is not performance. It is the same quality that kept her alive through 60 emergencies and the same quality that makes this conversation worth your hour.

Who She Is
Ukrainian entrepreneur currently based in the United States, rebuilding her life and business after relocating from Ukraine. Known for her radical openness and direct approach to every area of life.
Her Story
Survived 60+ emergency hospitalizations at a young age due to severe lung disease. That experience shaped her relationship with fear, time, meaning, and what it means to actually live — not just survive.
Her Superpower
The ability to be radically honest — about herself, her body, her desires, her failures, and her beliefs — in a way that disarms people and creates real connection rather than performance.
Her Core Belief
Hardship is not an obstacle to a good life — it is the hinge on which a good life swings open. Love and honesty, applied without compromise, are the most powerful tools a person can carry.

Key Quotes

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through your body and through your mind and through your soul you can create whatever you want if you can imagine this you can make it and if anybody did it already you also can do it and even better
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Miracles will be the part of your everyday life and this is not because I'm girl and you know I'm writing unicorns and no I just know how it works and this is how I'm helping people
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if your truth is in your heart you can even be aggressive but of course you need to be aggressive sometimes if somebody I don't know want to make hurt my friend or my kid
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0:00

Introduction — Victoria Boloban on Be Yourself Podcast

Serhiy hey everybody this is Sergey from be yourself podcast today we're joined by Victoria Boulevard a friend of mine who's an entrepreneur businesswoman she is a mother a change maker a Ukrainian now living in the United States vika thanks for taking the time
Victoria thank you for your invitation it was so glad I I'm absolutely surprised that I'm here and I'm glad to be here thank you very much
Serhiy my pleasure so first thing comes first tell us a little bit about yourself about what you're currently involved in business-wise and just a short pre-story so that our viewers can understand you better how do you like me call you Sergey Chris Sergey Sergey yeah
Victoria this is actually the name which I'm familiar with my name actually yes this is actually your name okay so Sergey uh first of all you know I'm usually introducing myself it and independent where I am and what people are interested in because I'm That Kind of entrepreneur I'm 38 years old and I'm since my 17 I'm in business I'm an investor and I'm dealing I used to work in United Arabic aim race in 2007 since 2007 for two years and I had a lot of that kind of unpredictable living experience which I didn't plan or like this but I'm absolutely happy to share uh with the people that with you especially yeah that being yourself why actually I'm here because I like the name of your point of course I'm glad to see you and I I like the name because I'm the one uh who is usually
Victoria um I'm the one who is showing that making every decision from your heart put it or even walk you through your love through your feeling through your inner real feelings this is this is actually what we need to do to live our lives because those kind of expectations which people and parents and Society everybody is waiting uh or rapping us on in this is not that reality which we want to leave and this is why um I will introduce myself so first of all I'm a woman this is the first and the main thing and I'm dealing with a lot of you know all of this uh life experiences through this state because of now I'm a human and I'm a woman I'm you know I need to be tolerant because now I'm living in Los Angeles I'm in States and I also heard so those people who who was who were burned with the female organs who used to be a woman I mean generally but there are a lot of people different kind of but for me I feel this in every sphere which I'm dealing with so I'm an investor and I can tell you my experience about that so more than 15 years having Investments I used to deal with the preschool education because I became a mother and as a marketologist I didn't found that kind of quality preschool or kindergarten which I I was looking for and I was so surprised at that time it was like 10 years ago that my my older daughter she's 12 years old and I was so surprised that there are so many nice buildings and infrastructures inside the school but the system is still that which is destroying which is not opening the the real power from people you know the kids because kids it's a little people it's and we need to deal through communication all the time we are uncommunicated with my investments I'm communicated with my kids with other kids with you with the people with the world yeah um and of course I'm the one who knows for sure from my personal experience that through your body and through your mind and through your soul you can create whatever you want if you can imagine this you can make it and if anybody did it already you also can do it and even better why because in my childhood I was absolutely absolutely a sick kid like seriously and like around 10 times per day I could die and even doctors told me I'm in doctors in Ukraine doctors in Singapore that time doctors in Germany all over the world thanks to my parents they was trying to I was trying to survive through a lot of sources and once I make a decision when people I was second group of how to put it in English in Wales yeah so it's it's a category when you are um how to put it in English um so that was a kind of sickness that when you have a document that you are you are not responsible to do a lot of things without as a normal people can yeah and usually these kind of people they are not survivors and I'm I was not agree with that since my childhood so I'm really like a light Warrior from my very very beginning because I was a child there was a kid who cannot jump dealing with the nature dealing with the animals running singing even speak loudly I have a big big problems with my land and I'm the one when the people when the doctors when the professors was asking only about my sickness and about a lot of things I showed that I'm the one who is living and who can create this type of life which was only my imagination they told me oh no you can dream about it of course but look look you have 64 uh emergencies like 64 through my childhood you have like almost like don't even think we just don't don't be realistic uh be realistic don't think don't fly over in the sky be realistic look please don't be surprised if you will die too like this that happened uh like through what years of your life till what age did it bother
Serhiy aged from 3 to 26.
Victoria to 26 yeah that was not that easy but I'm so grateful for that experience and now I know for sure when people say you know uh and I of course I went deeper to all of this stuff I started changed my mindfulness and I'm the one who might see that you know with those resources that we have in sight and with our mind and with our Focus Miracles will be the part of your everyday life and this is not because I'm girl and you know I'm writing unicorns and no I just know how it works and this is how I'm helping people and when people are dealing with me and they are asking about uh you know personal uh I I may say it's a guidance somebody called me Mentor but I'm not that kind of Mentor because I'm not a psychologist I'm not a coach I'm just the one who is guiding you through that experience which I passed and I know how to make it even better stronger and after a while the another type of my personality another part that I'm as I told you I'm a woman and before I was didn't even think about to be a mother because I just couldn't I I was thinking about how to survive every day that was not that you know part of just survive first and after I don't know I was dream about how to smoke because I I saw that kind of people who were smokers and you know for me they are so healthy that they can't even smoke there was the kind of kids imagination
Serhiy can you imagine things yeah and now actually dealing with my with my comment I'm sorry yeah I'm saying that a lot of things are taken for granted by people as a specific
9:24

Her Dream Life — Leaving Ukraine, Starting Over, and the Women's Body Recovery Project

Serhiy Level Health and it seems like you've never taken any any of your health for granted right and
Victoria now and I said that I'm so proud of myself that I moved I leave every day I may say that this is my dream life okay I realized it once and now I you know when the war started I leave Ukraine in Ukraine I had a wonderful very smart preschool educational kindergarten and I have an interview in my webpage not web page Instagram page and uh it's also interesting part and then I closed it of course after almost 60 days when it was hard because you know I need to support the people it was over 59 it was 59 people workers who I was trying to support for this 60 days you know they need a salary and they need to survive somehow and after I realized it I just don't have that resources because a lot of my resources and Investments also who was in Ukraine which was not productive that productive at the moment and I started to follow that feeling what can how can I help and whom can I at first myself and what can I do to create something something special and something new which also will be connected to that strength which we have inside because I don't know what about you but my feelings at the first days of War was like oh my God so this is a new page so I need to start my life from the very beginning in a new country I'm a single mother of two and it's not and I was also running from the country with my mom and with my niece so I was like you know captain of this boat with the five people inside and that was uh not that easy but I went through it and I realized that I create my my women body my human body through the love and through a lot of matters which I tried because I was you know I tried through this 20 something years a lot of methods traditional and traditional different kind of cultures and I know for sure what is works and I know how breathing helps and I know that we may create everything and we may recover everything it's possible to recover and there are so many it's not actually the topic which I'm usually uh so this is like a women body uh recovery so but probably you don't know but over 85 women's reproductive age has a lot of issues with those pelvic muscle floor Matic muscle is the women's organs okay and a lot of a lot of issues they have even after baby birth or without it and that's kind of issues is making life not that nice not that Pleasant everyday life because there are so many of them and usually doctors I'm dealing with the doctors I'm working with the doctors I'm even teaching doctors at the moment because I know how to put that strength and it's also you know like a muscle which we may train as an energy and we might train a lot of muscle since our body we just need to know how to deal with it to empower them so this is what the project which I'm doing at the moment so this is like very very fresh one and I'm glad to share it with you
Serhiy so the majority of your like of
13:27

Building a New Life — The Course on Women's Health and Who It's For

Serhiy I understand that essentially you're taking care of your kids and you are as you told me before the before the show you said that you are building a new life which I really love how you put it um but at the same time the the the the most effort goes into the creation of this new course that the proper way of putting it right a course on women's health that would be a proper way of saying so can you tell me can you tell us a little bit more about just about about this course and um how you see it's going to help women Ukrainian women or women all around the world
Victoria yeah I might say that
14:20

Connecting to Our Sexual Life — Sexuality, Pleasure, and the Taboo We Need to Break

Victoria I just told you that you know for me the personality is without nationality I'm not the one at the camera was off at that time yeah I'm not the one who is dealing only with the ukrainians because I have a lot of friends all over the world and I have a lot of Support also even from Russia can I say this words I don't know yeah and um for me at the moment the most important thing to give that power which people cannot see at the moment inside of them and when I'm mentoring people actually it's not only women's because I'm dealing with the course which which is connecting to our sexual life to a human body and we are working with the oh we just you know like uh restarting all of the human body systems and it's very important when you are dealing with Thompson when something is you know you have an issue I don't know pain somewhere somewhere in your body of course you may think that at first you need to understand and to listen what your body shows you at the moment and especially when it's dealing with the women body and especially I'm putting the every person is absolutely different and we need to explain to ourselves at first what I'm dealing with if I'm not agree that okay this is a back pain but this is back pain is also connected with the whole body so um I'm working with the whole body through the breathing through the mantle work through the pelvic muscle floor so there is also there is a group of muscles but I don't know why but in in our society people womens that doesn't know the name of each organ inside of those bodies and they don't know how everybody has a period yeah but each woman said oh I don't like it most of them my God it's not pleasant and it's this or that but this is our body this is our part of Nature and we need to think maybe we need to take care about ourselves that period more and thanks to this we may give a birth we may give a life and why this topic was so taboo I mean you know sexual life is suitable or so I don't know um we are putting either in a dirty way this topic either we are joking about it either we didn't talk about it at all but we need to know that our sexuality is our pleasure of the life and I'm you know in my course the main topic is pleasure of the life and yes it is called sexuality because if you don't like this process if you don't know how you may touch yourself how can you explain your partner or why you are expecting actually from your partner that he will satisfy you that way would you like the how just to guess
Serhiy so that's weird yeah you're basically you're facilitating women and
17:44

Mental Health — Energy, Passion, and the Chicken-and-Egg Problem

Serhiy people with the with the set of exercises and also breathing techniques that will enable them to basically get to the highest uh like the peak Peak pleasure or whatever it might be which in a way will also Aid like the mentals Health right so everything our mental health is starts from like the body if the body is in pain right you won't ever have the the the the the the the the the good State of Mind mental orgasm let's say let's yeah so and Tony Robbins is actually preaching about this all the time that uh energy is the center of our universe like if we don't take care of our body if we don't create the energy from within we won't be able to grow to inspire other people to do good for for the uh for the humanity let's put it this way and I'm I'm on board with you on this one that we referred my I have a question in this respect where do you think the passion comes from Passion comes from the energy like or the energy uh drives passion so what is you know the chicken and egg Pro and an egg problem what comes first do you first start doing something and then you you get excited about what you like for example you start working it in a new company right and you get excited as you go and then you become kind of passionate about it later or you should first find what gives you Goosebumps find something that you just get an answer this is the answer right this is the answer how what what if people can't find what what gives them Goosebumps what if people can find what they truly love and what they can't can't live like what if they just live their life and feel pathetic and you know like wasting their time and not being not enjoying every single day
20:14

Truth and Love — Stop Bullshitting Yourself, Strength Through Weakness

Victoria Truth and Love love and truth this self-truth this is the main thing I don't know that bad words in English but usually I'm telling in Russia uh stop cheating let's say let's translate it like more kind way yeah bullshitting yourself right stop [ __ ] in yourself because this is the main [ __ ] it's when you think that okay I need to do this and you are trying different ways different postures everything like in sex you don't you cannot smile or you cannot you know fix it fake it I mean if if you don't like it if it's not yours if if it's as you tell me yeah if you feel pain somewhere you cannot take a pleasure and for of course for women and for men for women and for men this is different because sometimes we just need to focus on one thing for example we need to I don't know make a list of things which I really love without any circumstances without whatever people telling even I don't know just watching the world I don't know whatever driving bicycle now I'm riding bicycle every day you cannot I'm a big driver my father was a champion take a part of Championship a championship in uh Soviet Union by car team so I'm driving since five years old not only bicycle car as well so I was sitting in my father's knees and I was you know a big absolutely happy driver and I'm that kind of person I just came from Arizona with my kids I just decided to go there because I've heard that Sedona is a kind of Tibet uh local ones and there are you know this powerful vortexes and this really inspiring place but I was driving for seven and a half year hours years so glass you know I was chatting with the kids and the road was beautiful everything was changing so yes I inspiring for example from observing nature so I need to deal with this somehow if I'm inspiring to deal with something I've already entered energy there and you just you know everything everything creates from our state it's it's a small small state is what we are actually existing from at the moment and where if we are full of stress of pain we will show the world the pain and stress and you know this like satisfaction okay that's mine but it's it's also very very personal stuff a lot of people now creating those new lives and I'm establishing here I moved now it's fifth time I'm in Los Angeles at the moment before I moved to Florida but you know I I felt that the climate the nature is not that which I'm inspiring from I cannot breathe and for me every breathe and for actually this is all so what I'm sharing with the world that every breathe breath yeah so while while we are breathing every breath one while we are inhaling which has taken this world and after we are sharing and we will just putting through all of our body this is what we are in him and with an exhale you are sharing what you have inside and you creating with all of these little Parts average everything your existing moment and this unbelievably important to understand and I have you know my first let's say client was my friend he's an I.T guy he's working in Alaska I don't know I'm I'm joking that you know he's making he's given power to all Alaskan people and he came to me and said look I need your guidance and this I there's a kind of [ __ ] in my life so he's successful he's so smart I'm absolutely stupid in I.T absolutely so I'm I'm okay with that I cannot be that smart and that powerful and that strong as at first this was also very hard to accept because you know in the Ukraine I had a big team it was over 60 workers and I was the one who used to help people and to support them to give them jobs I had big Educational Center like for preschool education for for kids psychology so there was like the things to do and here I felt that I'm not that strong and for me it was so unpleasant I was like strong girl before but even when I realized that now I'm weak and through my weakness I'm given strength to those who is helping me because my friends especially one you know his big friend of mine and he told me Vicky let me help you say my God I don't know how can I pay or what can I do like I said nothing just please accept this help for me this is a big pleasure to help you I know how who are you and I said oh my God my God it's so it was so simple for me but from the other part when I was helping but through the weakness we may give a strength to the world as well and every so as I you know this is a long answer on your question but I'm telling you I'm talking about the truth if your truth is in your heart you can even be aggressive but of course you need to be aggressive sometimes if somebody I don't know want to make hurt my friend or my kid I'm not that educationally professional at the moment [ __ ] I'm I'm aggressive a lot of psychology said how can you do with this he was dealing with the people with the teachers like this like my name Maria and this is the real realistic I don't know Behavior human behavior need to be realistic and need to be absolutely from the heart because if I was I'm trying to be a good girl or strong girl or if just a human body will show us if you will put this weakness somewhere and your body will be broken ones so you may accumulate that somewhere especified if lie to yourself
Serhiy yeah you try to kind of mask or hide some of the natural behaviors that you have or natural this predispositions for example if you're an aggressive man you don't have to kind of pretend to be the soft soft vulnerable fellow sometimes you want to be aggressive it's just that there is time and place to be aggressive therefore I for example play basketball and I understand that I need it it's an absolute necessity and mandatory thing for me because I actually almost fighting there you know I can be really really harsh on other men but I realize that I need this you know and then afterwards this is the best part after we've played hard and even maybe engaged in a fight I would come over to the person and say hey man sorry I was a little bit harsh that like no no I hope no hard feelings nothing personal and he's like bro no problem I mean this is the true expression of of of humanity when people are and to your point when people are willing to show their vulnerability just like you said that you gain strength through showcasing your weakness and you almost you can't understand why people want to help you right as you are maybe not as powerful as you were right back in Ukraine but that's because they're just human who help other human being and they like you and you see and through and by and when we see the people not pretending right not being these success monsters or whoever just being themselves and you know kind of asking for help which is really important you remember an upgrade Camp which we both attended I I remember to this day where Allah said that in order to get help you gotta raise your hand there's a bunch of people around you willing to help they just don't give a have a clue that you need help yes so you're like I need help and you know suddenly a lot of people will will help so that's that's powerful and I think in Ukraine especially within the business a community there's still this kind of stigma on showing your weakness it's almost like because I I've been working with I.T entrepreneurs for for a while and big big investors and business people and uh they they they it seems like they want to know it all this it seems like they want to have all the answers which is I think really detrimental that which Really Gonna gonna bring at some point it just gonna bring a lot of pain because you've been trying to know it all and you know get and you get overwhelmed with all this stuff so I'm not sure if you you said that you still you have this guy who you're working with but you're not only working with women but also men
Victoria yes because it's a human human dealing thing you know I and they say that I'm the one
31:01

Create Feelings — Light Warrior, Passion, and Why You Need to Relax First

Victoria they told me you know it starts from that they say oh you know can we just stay next to you because you're creating feelings and we are starting to love this life we just want to leave and I said oh my God yeah this is my superpower and I know that there are so many advantages where people they didn't even I said look you're so happy look how how powerful you are and really I I it's not like I'm supportive one because I see it and I can just highlight it I'm that kind of you know Light Warrior which will highlight your strength and power and we will Empower it together and I know how to do it and I'm holding your hand and we're going together if you need me because for me it's like and I can make it easily really it's like this and what I forgot to say that while you are asking about this passion we need to remember that our passion also will create from the state it's a kind of a relaxation pleasure let's say you understand what I mean so when you are overwhelmed over stressed when you are so focused yeah sometimes when you are playing for example uh my uh my son had a part of a championship in karate of course you need to be focused on there yeah and there is so also life-changing rules it's life life rules so you need to be focused some you know everything like in a sex so if you are dealing with your partner at the moment you need to focus on your state but if you're in a hurry come on it's yeah you can like finalize it as soon as possible but if we are talking about this States about our filling Creations about everything which is dealing with our whole body cells no it's not that of course if we need to run from one from A to B and we need to make it very fast we may we will make it but if we are talking about feelings Creator about this passion you need to relax first and you need to feel that I'm in God yes now I'm here it's impossible to get for a woman it's impossible to get an orgasm if if she's stressed and she's so good you know compressing all the body and the same in the life and this is why I'm explaining through these things because it's possible to understand and they say a lot of people came to me say you know it's even hard to say but I don't know what the orgasm looks like people are screaming so much why and and and a lot of girls that are going through big pain and and they're trying to express some feelings which were never there inside you know all the feelings I was dealing with a lot of kids while my preschool uh kindergarten was created and we create a really beautiful system and it all the feelings creates in our body from the very beginning to seven years old and 85 percent in our brain we're just recording from that period we didn't know what the name of that feeling we didn't know what how to how to express it in a Wars but we felt it and if it was hidden if it was you know shut up mans are not crying uh girls are I mean boys are not crying girls cannot fight or cannot be rude or cannot express or you shouldn't shy everywhere you you know the one of the suggestion in my kindergarten was absolutely restricted and there was no kids need to shout it's it's unusual when you came to kindergarten and it's very quiet unless it's not that you know sleep an hour they need to shout they need to express they need to show to the world what they're dealing with what they want and we know if you are not expressing to from the your mouth through the words sometimes it's you yeah like a raising hand we cannot understand this and you need to express it to yourself you need to empower yourself and give a place to all of the feelings which you want to express and there you will find the power you will follow the resource what you want to do where to look whom to deal with and you need to go away from the place which you don't like because a lot of people now sacrificing especially and before it was the same the war is just a very tragic period but every time it was the same we were sitting in the places which we don't like even if it's I don't know best friend wedding party whatever we need to say we need to stay there yeah we need to just to make a face how to put it in English yeah just say strict the straight and listen but if you don't like it why you should be there you shouldn't you should go away from the place if you are not raising there if your body your soul if you're not making something good for you just stand up and go to the other place yeah it's sometimes very hard because you know we have not this movement inside but we need to make a small step at least think about it and after the war has has helped so many of us to
36:44

Be Yourself — Living Against Expectations, Why Vika Was Invited

Serhiy I think stop just uh wasting our life doing something that is expected from us just as you said yeah we'll live a lot of us live lives expected by someone but and maybe it's a society places this expectation your parents the social media now and um I I 100 agree with you that wish we should create our own kind of world with our own rules and that's why I call this podcast uh be yourself because you know I admire people who do not banned who are not bending under like the rules of course who who are building the odds just like you you were building the odds you have been betting the odds all throughout your life having the illness and you know doing business as a woman which is not an A Walk in a park right doing it in Ukraine and you you've succeeded and I admire people like you and that's partly an answer to your question that you asked prior to this podcast why did you invite me because when I when we I remember you after one event in Kiev you invited us to a karaoke I forgot about it yeah and it was it was it was such a great indication of you as a human being because I saw a person who wasn't shy at all to organize something to to take in to take risks because that was actually the time at the covet time where the not all the rest yeah yeah this hidden yeah and I saw some I felt so much power in you like you actually knew people who were open who accepted it and you were so confident you know this is something that I really really lacked in my life because I come from you know this uh really shy boy who didn't have a lot of success with women which also really really influenced how I like view the world and and things sure in my life to kind of uh kind of ease this pain you know and a lot of women that I had to kind of be with to finally get over this pain of not being accepted by women which I now realized as the first and foremost problem with my mom who I finally mending fences and finally um in great relationship with my parents this is the greatest starting point for every man if you guys if you guys are listening to me try to fix a relationship with a mom before all the time the third thing you need to fix relations with your mom and your dad
39:54

Fix Relationships — Gratitude for Parents, Kindness as the Starting Point

Victoria doesn't matter if not doesn't matter they're closer to you or not even if you're there absolutely I don't know criminals or sick or whatever just in your heart fix this relation and you will see the changes in your life this is the first very first thing which you need to do of course absolutely and from your kindness you know when you are making this uh boundaries when you are creating them at first it should be kindness so not the Border go away straight stop yeah like this but it should be kindness from your heart and of course we if you are here just one main point sorry for interrupting you but this is really very very important if we are here and you can hear my voice my voice your parents do everything for you just they give your life you know because all is a Terrain in the world will tell you that that hundreds of thousand souls are staying in a line to be here just to live this life to feel at least something because in other unparalleled words it's a different different things and being here live this life and this is the big so this gratefulness this is absolutely the first thing when you need to build your happiness this is it enough to go and live your life you shouldn't love your parents I mean you shouldn't because Society told us that we showed love we should respect whose oldest no respect your parents and be grateful for your life yes always but after that live your life as you want you're absolutely you're the most
41:46

Live Your Life As You Want — Matthew McConaughey, Sprints vs Strategy, Material Possessions

Serhiy important unique person in your life you owe it to yourself to live the life that you really really enjoy and I I do you know Matthew McConaughey of course I'm next to him living nearby oh really oh my God he's he's like my modern hero and he said metaphorically he said that it's okay to drink a beer on your way to the temple he means that it's okay to enjoy because we always were like climbing the mountain there's some destination over there and sure thing when you get there we're gonna feel something good good feel like we're sick we're fulfilled or or happy even but just for a second because you're gonna see a higher height you're gonna see a higher mountain right once you climb to this to the top of this one you're gonna see a Higher One and that's where well life gets really really tricky because you might find yourself in the position of always trying to get higher and higher and higher and forgetting to have fun at the moment yeah and your your examples and parallels that you set with sex I'm kind of it's kind of really really interesting because in a way uh it's not about the destination point but it's actually so sometimes in life we have short-term like uh goals that we really need to as you said we just need to focus and get like a marathon and sprinters of course yeah yeah so some short Sprints just just go go for it like don't don't don't uh distract yourself with anything but some things are like more strategic and you gotta take it take like take a pause and maybe reflect on what you have accomplished and a lot of people when they write the resumes you know they kind of um look like like a lot of people don't don't think that much about what they have accomplished and what what they already have in life not even have but the experiences because material possessions as we all ukrainians realize that material possessions are just just doesn't worth like a penny not everything universe so it's yeah I'm like it's okay to to have money in the bank but like how do you feel right now right what can you can you tell me when do you think the person should give back like is it um is it something that every single human being must at least once in a lifetime realize that they need to get get back or it's okay to live their entire life as a consumer what do you what's your take on this I'm curious
Serhiy because not a lot of a lot of a uh taking and taking and taking I'm interested if you think it's like it's like a super imperative thing for everyone to give back
45:19

Balance — Giving and Receiving, Investing in Yourself, How to Share What You Know

Victoria um you know when it's only about consumption we may feel that sometimes just remember about the balance so our heart as as our hands you know this I don't know they say heart chakra or this energy source and this part where's our hands where's our heart what like we are opening and we are taken this out if you're taken taken and taken you will combine it and it can like bomb sometimes in one period of time and I'm not the one who said that you need to be in service all the time just giving and giving and giving you know to of course you need to create this feel of receiving Jordan I'm also teaching uh with the Jody's Panzer courses and I've passed four of them this year's and that was absolutely great and you know the fields of giving the the power of giving Grace the field of receiving mm-hmm and if you know that you will and you may take that this universe is created for you for everybody of us of course we need to accept it but accept it and to take everything from the world it's not just to take what you like let's say you may accept everything what is coming from like a human body we have a different system and we have also our stomach and there are a lot of [ __ ] there and if you're gonna Focus only at that stomach so we will accumulate that [ __ ] let's say but if you will feel that you have a heart you have a hands you have your skin and everything is breathing and same in the people yeah you may feel you may face with rudeness you may face with a lot of things would make even hurt you but you may accept and you give this you know it's it's not your responsibility to deal with it or not at the moment this is the other thing but you need to accept this world and you need to know that this balance of giving and receiving is your personal choice and you may see in your life how it will you know combine all of this life puzzle what we have at the moment yeah and you may say oh maybe it's time to serve maybe it's time to give something because if it's accumulating in the person and you are not given it you're not sharing it with the people especially if you're learning something I pass this a lot of times you know I went there because I'm studying all the times and they say what you are investing for so I'm investing in the states of course I'm in a real estate in a lot of sources and I have at least five of them I mean if we are talking about our investment part but I do I will not even tell you how much I invest my indication so my education and me especially as personality this is the main thing but if I will just accumulate it in my body so what for I need to share with the world somehow it doesn't mean that I need to go and I don't know help to some homeless people or something like this just find a way how to how to communicate how to make this circle and how to balance it in your life this is the main but you shouldn't think about this like if I'm given something so I probably I will receive from this Source especially you shouldn't wait from that Source if you are very kind or you are very helpful to somebody it doesn't mean that this person will say thank you even say it thank you I mean being grateful is being grateful and it is you know thousands of situations we cannot talk about this in this short one hour time people might not even say thank you yes and I think it's okay and you will because if
49:44

Expectation — Do Things With Love or Don't Do Them at All

Serhiy you're not expecting anything in return right it's totally fine because the universe will find its way to maybe to maybe give it back to you not maybe of course you will receive it you will
Victoria receive 100 you unexpectably to make it with the whole you know with life again if you're doing something not with the love again you know upgrade family is my like a part of my family and this is my they are about my big friends and all the courses is going through this golden line and you may say that if you are doing something if you don't like this uh process it's not a good deal if you are doing something and you don't like this person whom you are doing dealing with it's not good thing and if you're doing with the bad feelings to did you know for you is it not good thing again because you are the part of the universe and if something in this universe is feeling bad so you know you cannot it's not a good thing
Serhiy that's that's that's actually the courage that that some people have some people don't you know
51:08

Environment — Your Five People, Jim Rohn, and Why Truth and Love Are Not New But Always True

Serhiy to pass on some opportunities you know um I think one of the most instrumental and crucial skills um the person might have I have is saying no right because there are a lot of opportunities that seem like really really shiny and beneficial but they're they just not they just don't align with your values there are a lot of people who are now in your life that you should say goodbye to right because people what do you think about the environment as we're this is the main thing in your life
Victoria you are in your environment you are if you are investing your energy to something so it means it's important for you and you need to see you know to look around this is the very common thing yeah at least five people who's your common surroundings it's almost here shape shape who you are yes and Jim Rohn I think said this everybody's saying this you know the whole the whole the truth it's the same and a lot of people can explain it in a different way and I'm not telling anything special but you know they say what you're thinking if somebody is uh how to put it duplicating you yeah make the same thing or saying the same thing what you are imitating imitating it's impossible if even you will learn one word to the other how I'm telling you cannot say the same because the feelings are different because if you are not congruent with the things what I'm telling you know each word is a code which is going through your feelings through your cells through everything so I may say [ __ ] you and it's going to be a blessing because I know why I'm telling this because this is my boundaries or this is the the time when person need to hear it because he thinks he's you know everything and everywhere or Main I mean it's like there are so many examples and yes and no I will tell you like one hour podcast we can make on this topic as well so yes and no this is also very very important things but the main thing as an as I told you at the very beginning the truth and love nothing new but so important not New Concept but you know
53:48

Daily Routine — Waking Up at 4:30, Breathing, Sport, and Money That Comes When You Relax

Serhiy it's sometimes we need practical practicals practical rails and practical ways of applying yes things maybe you can give some of your daily routine examples what do you do to
Victoria you all think that I'm a bit um alien and people say oh my God it's like nine o'clock in the morning you did all of that stuff already I said yes I'm sorry I'm leaving it's my life you know I'm the one who is inspiring the sunrise and I know so this is my communication with the world so I am absolutely inspired when I'm Waking Up 4 30 5 o'clock in the morning so this is my power powerful hours because at seven I feel I will wake up you know I'm a mother of two okay until that period I'm doing my this is like my favorite hours yes of course sometimes I need to sleep till the seven I mean it's probably weird to hear sleep till seven oh my God but for me it's like till till the midday and yeah um I'm inspiring sunsets and of course we need to breathe and we need to activate all of our system through the breathing so fine just come I will tell you how or find any breathing method which is comfortable for you I mean five minutes in the morning start with one minute but everybody has this one minute to breathe focus on this breathing sometimes it's meditation meditation works perfectly but for different people it's absolutely different path for example riding bicycle for me at the moment is also meditation before I had one and two and six hours meditation in a Jody Spencer trading I made six hours meditation per day so it's like a huge as a what before I couldn't concentrate even for one minute and of course we need to invest to our body to our environment everything what we want so we need to attract but we need to be attractive to attract and of course just it's a good good really good State absolutely absolutely because you know if I hate broccoli I cannot it I am dealing with you know a lot but we may say that of course we need to drink water clean water will clean your body we need to breathe we need to exercise our body and we need to do something which inspires me maybe some of course I'm I'm a big fan of sport and I'm trying new things all the time because this is how my brain works and this is how I need to you know I'm 38 I'm not 28 anymore and our body is the most powerful till thirties and we also need to know but now in my 38 I'm looking better than my 28 and even in 18 and I feel better as I told you I'm not looking like uh was it a 18 years old girl but I'm feeling like I'm absolutely alive and this age it means how how what do you invest in it and if it's full of energy if it's full of love you will see that life is like you can live I don't know 100 years minimum maybe 200 so create your own personal one hour routine she will absolutely like relax and this life balance I cannot work for whole day and a lot of my uh friends I mean man they say okay let's talk about this and about this project I said okay so what you're dealing with now I said this is my project now so I'm dealing I'm recovering women body systems he said right you would you like before you do so cool stuff I said these are the coolest stuff because I like it so much and I know how powerful it is and when you will have sex twice per day you will say thank you me that and they came back to me and they say thank you it's absolutely different life because yeah we forgot about it you know we're like 10 15 years together and we thought it was like come come on I'm like this I'm like that I'm not sex trainer yeah but but I know how to empower human body to feel this absolutely natural inspiration and it's gonna be like multi-orgasm during the day you will feel what you need you will know what you need to put in this one hour your your relaxation and of course this balance I have a perfect balance so I have couple hours for work for relaxation for my mother stuff for my girl stuff and it worked the best you know and money came when I'm relaxed can you imagine that was so new for me was it really but this is another probably topic for another podcast
Serhiy yeah money you can't force it you yeah probably you can right by just as we discussed just focusing on earning a bunch of cash but this money will never bring you the state of happiness or fulfillment because no amount of money can help us if we're lost or you know disappointed and feel like what we're doing does not bring that does not bring us this energy yeah that's another another topic you know about money wealth
Victoria yeah you need to create these relations again relations in love you need to receive it with a great pleasure with a pleasure and you need to share you need to buy something cool what you like either you know a nice cup of coffee or nice this shaped well I'm absolutely you know inspiring my this cup and coffee inside everything is that perfect with what I like and I will not drink that bad coffee or from a plastic Porter that cup I don't like it it's like the small things I'm drinking coffee same as water same as everything what I'm dealing with and I'm not wasting my time with somebody which I'm not interested in and I'm so grateful to be here with you because I know how I don't know it's also was you know light from the heart you write me at that time that I was thinking about oh my God my English is not that perfect I cannot start anything telling English because I need to be cool at first because somehow I'm a perfectionist and that kind of strange one you know so thank you so much
Serhiy you speak full English thank you for sharing all this information and your wisdom and experience so guys that was uh actually was my first official um episode of be yourself a podcast with beautiful Victorian yeah this was my first one official one and the more to come guys stay tuned and take care be happ